Hey, it’s that time of year again. The time of year where your relationship status is glaringly obvious and at the forefront of your mind. Couples are making plans and reservations. Singles are posting snarky memes on Social Media. It’s the easiest time of year to get a date. Because nobody actually wants to be alone on Valentines Day and the ones that claim they do are just lying to themselves.

So here are some things to remember while you’re contemplating this Valentines Day:

#1.) It’s not just some trivial day. It has value and meaning. Don’t dismiss it or disregard it. It’s ONE day a year that is held sacred to show honor and respect to the person you care about. Anyone who dismisses that, takes things for granted that they shouldn’t.

#2.) SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOF TOPS! Post it all over Social Media. Go large or go home. You should be proud to be with the person you’re with. So if you aren’t willing to make it known or brag about it, then you’re not really in to them like you claim to be. (And if you are with someone who isn’t open about being with you, kick them to the curb! They’re keeping their options open and they aren’t worth it)

#3.) They don’t have to like everything you like, but if they are unwilling to spend a day doing something you like to do, something is wrong. That applies to ball games and movies too. You should be interested in the things your mate is interested in, and if you are not, you should at least care enough about them to spend time doing what they want to do. It’s a major red flag if someone is unwilling to do that. Nothing screams self absorbed more than someone unwilling to share in an activity with you.

#4.) Take the drive. Ignore the time. A person who thinks more about the distance or time of day/night when it comes to seeing you is admitting they value their sleep and comfort over being with you. And I seriously, question a guys “Man Card” when I hear them complaining about the distance they have to go or time of day to see their lady. I legit don’t get it. (Frickin man up, nut up, and stop bein a wuss!)

#5.) Don’t trust anyone who reads ahead. Seriously. Reading a book together is about sharing the experience. Listening to the inflection of their voice and watching the expressions on their face. Anyone who would be willing to miss that in order to find out what happens next, is just not that in to you! 

#6.) Let them sleep. The cool thing about watching movies nowadays is they can be started over and watched again. I’d take watching a movie with my lady curled up in my arms sound asleep on the couch any day over watching one alone. So it’s all good. By all means, catch some Zzzzz’s!

#7.) Nah, they ain’t just friends. So there isn’t going to be any of that “Work Spouse”, “Work Girlfriend/Boyfriend” BS. Anyone not willing to delete a “friend” off of Social Media for you, is full of shit when it comes to valuing the relationship. There is a reason why that’s something you are asking and its’ valid. You have the right to question. And someone who gives a damn, is going to want to address it.

#8.) Wearing old dirty boots is 100% normal. But so is taking a bath and washing your feet. Don’t be working all day, not washing your ass, and then get upset because your lady doesn’t want to get with you. You can’t expect a woman to be fired up to see you when they’re doing your laundry and seeing brown streaks in your underwear.

#9.) If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. The words that come out of your mouth have to mean something. The person you are with should be the one person on the planet that believes you. If they’re not, then that is pretty telling. I don’t trust anyone who’s spouse doesn’t believe them. If they think you’re a fuckin liar, then I believe them.

#10.) Give yourself a break. No one gets it right all of the time. People make mistakes. Including you. Forgive them and forgive yourself. Life is way too short to dwell on guilt. You simply can not change the past. You can only learn from your mistakes, own up to them, and move on. So do that. Apologize freely and willingly. Then move on.

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Read more here: A Very Special Valentines Day 

***Definitely did not intend for this to start any fights! But ya, these are some things that have stood out to me over the years. With Valentines Day approaching, it would be hard not to think of them. And if ya mate isn’t “measuring up” in your eyes, perhaps these are some things they can work on. 

I hope you have the BEST Valentines Day and spend it with Someone Special!