It’s not that people don’t like Valentines Day. It’s just that, unless you are in a relationship with someone, Valentine’s Day is just a reminder of something you lack in your life. Something that poets, philosophers, and song writers have often equated meaning to the very essence of life itself. For people that are in relationships Valentines Day can be a catalyst behind an unwanted pressure leading to feelings of anxiety and frustration.

But none of that was ever the point of the day.

Valentine’s Day is meant for being a celebration. An acknowledgement, a showing of appreciation, of wonder and amazement, of the beauty of life and the joy it brings when you have someone special to share it with. It’s intended to build and strengthen a relationship. Specifically designed to add more glue and create that bond.

Damn you for dismissing it.

Damn you for downplaying it.

Damn you for forgetting it. 

How incredibly foolish some people can be. Of all the days to be self centered, self focused, self absorbed…Valentine’s Day is not the day. 

Valentine’s Day is a day that you do for the person you care about. Valentine’s Day is the day, ONE day a year, when you set aside the daily duties and tasks of the hour and put your focus on your mate. Is it the only day? No. Of course not. Does it have ta be on the day? No. Of course not. But please tell me, if not Valentine’s Day, what other days throughout the year are you taking the time and putting forth the effort to celebrate the love you have and share with your mate? 

See, I’d be all keen on it if a couple was like, nah we don’t celebrate on Valentine’s Day but we make a point to take at least one day once a year to be thankful and celebrate our love for each other. But the reality is, they never say that. Most couples are so stuck in the daily grind that they barely find time to have sex, let alone attempt to connect on an emotional or spiritual level. Because ta do that….you need a full day…maybe a full weekend. 

So, don’t miss getting the flowers this year. Don’t miss getting the chocolate. Women who claim they don’t like flowers and chocolate are speaking from a place of bitterness of never getting them from someone they love. People in love enjoy getting gifts from the people they love; they enjoy doing things and receiving things from the people they love. This is basic. Don’t be an idiot.

Being single is no excuse for not celebrating the day. Truth is, there really is no reason for anyone who’s single to spend Valentine’s Day alone. Simply isn’t. Of all the days to get a date…Valentine’s Day is the easiest one. No one wants to be alone on Valentine’s Day. People who are alone on Valentine’s Day have chosen to be alone on Valentine’s Day. There’s a huge difference in that.

Give the invitation…accept the invitation. Go to dinner, have drinks. Talk. Laugh. Have a good time. Don’t think too much into it. Seriously. Spend the day simply enjoying the one you’re with. No, they may not be your soul mate. No, your kids may not like them. No, this may definitely not be forever. But none of that shit matters. Because you’re spending a day. One day. In reverence and celebration of a power that turns the globe. Acknowledge it. Value it. Show it your respect. 

Don’t miss it. Not this year. Not any year.

….then she looked into my eyes…I leaned in and brushed my lips across her cheek…tasted her lips…then slowly down her neck, my fingers in her hair, I pulled her close. She brought me to her knees…traced her body so I’d know…one then two, I beckoned her to come hither. She arched her back, her hands holding me there as she breathed deep…it was at that moment I felt the joy of what is Valentine’s Day…and there I gladly resigned to die. 

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***Yes, in spite of all my anger, bitterness, sarcasm, and overall unpleasantness at the mere mention of all things pertaining to love, I still believe in love. The magic and beauty of what love brings. I refuse…I refuse, to not allow myself to feel it again. Cupid…bastard that you are, impale me deep…may your arrow split my heart of stone. May I bleed the crimson elixir of life once again…until from my lips the whisper of mercy releases me. May it be so. What a beautiful thing that is love…