If you are a woman, best stop reading now. You don’t want to read this. You’ve been warned. Don’t message me or comment about how you disagree with it or how it offends you. If you’re a woman and you continue reading, it’s on YOU.

Guys, as a man you have some responsibilities. BASIC responsibilities. Things that come with the territory of calling yourself a man. The two primary ones being: To PROVIDE and PROTECT. That’s your job. It’s your job to provide for your woman and your kids. Period. Doesn’t matter if she has a better job or makes more money. You are still required to work. Get it?

No woman is going to respect you if you don’t work. They just won’t. They may say they do, but it’s total bullshit. Don’t believe it. And no other man will ever look at you with respect if you’re living off your lady. Just isn’t going to happen. So, spare me the drivel about how hard you think you got it. You HAVE to work. Do whatever you gotta do to provide. I have taken many a job that I hated simply to provide. Many that were embarrassing and sucked. There’s no shame in it. Just do it. Trust me, it will do well for you.

Why is she paying the bills?

Some of you do the work, pull the paper, and then kick your lady the bills for her to pay. That’s never made any sense to me. Paying bills is stressful. It sucks. So why are you giving the most stressful thing to do to your lady? Do you even like sex? Women tend to be more open to the idea of having sex when they aren’t stressed. You want sex to relieve stress. But your woman doesn’t want sex when she’s stressed. That’s not how their brains work. So, how about you make sure all the bills get paid, so your lady don’t have to. Then you can be all stressed out and she’ll let ya tap her because she’s not stressed and you’ll get to relieve that stress. Get it?

That doesn’t necessarily mean you have to put the stamp on the envelope. It just means the person that needs to be worrying about what gets paid and what doesn’t get paid, should be YOU. Figure it out, make the decision, so she doesn’t have to. If she won’t let you do that, then she doesn’t trust you. Because obviously you weren’t responsible enough in the past. So, work to fix that.

Providing isn’t just about money though. Providing involves giving emotional support and spiritual support too.

You got to be there when your lady and your family need you emotionally. I get that some guys have it worse in that area than others because some women are total basket cases. But ya really got to be putting the effort in there. Got to listen and pay attention. Notice the tone of their voice, the expressions on their face, the subtle glance, etc. It’ll give you insight into how they’re feeling and how they’re doing on an emotional level. Which will help you provide the support that you need to provide.

You can’t always “fix” things. But half the time women don’t want things fixed anyway. They just want to talk about how much it frustrated them or how bad their day was. So don’t make more work for yourself. You can offer, but then just go with what they say.

You NEED to be the leader of your faith.

That goes along with the providing thing. You need to provide for them spiritually too. Pray, read the bible, question things with them, maybe get into a church. Whatever the belief of your household, you better be involved. You got a family, you better step up to the plate and lead. That means if your lady goes to church, SO DO YOU. Get it? There’s really no gray area here. Get involved. If you don’t, that will always be an underlying rub with her. And you’ll totally fail to prepare your kids for what the world has in store for them. Which is a total travesty and makes you a total failure as a parent. Don’t leave the spiritual guidance of your family up to strangers. Be the leader of your faith.

Protect your family against negative outside influences,

poor business decisions, other inviting women, etc. You know what I’m talking about. You got a family member that’s causing grief with your lady or your kids? They gotta go. Remove them or remove your family from them. Doesn’t matter if they are your own mother. If your friend or a family member is causing strife or discord in your family it is YOUR JOB to shut that down. Your lady, your kids, ARE the priority. They’re your responsibility to protect. Don’t allow people outside of your immediate family to cause grief in your home. It’s simply not acceptable. 

The decisions you make in your job and your business have an affect on them. Remember that. Yes, I realize that’s a tough one to control. Many times you won’t be able to control or prepare for every variable. But you can put your family first when it comes to how things go down. Jobs will come and go. Businesses will start and close. Protect your lady and your kids from the rollercoaster of that by putting them first. Which means, you don’t miss family time for work. If you have something planned with your family and work calls, work gets to wait. The family bills get paid first. Get it? You don’t need the job. The job needs you. It’s never the other way around. Ever.

Lots of women on the planet.

They all got the same parts. Don’t jeopardize having an argument with your lady and the possibility of losing your kids over a piece of strange trim. Don’t do it. It’s ridiculously stupid. That woman has literally NOTHING your lady doesn’t already have, save one thing, the attention of your ego. That’s it. Nothing more. She’s stroking your ego. Recognize that and stow it. Protect what you got against that.

Which means you don’t text, or message, or chat up other women because you’re “just friends”. You don’t share with them how your day is going. You don’t ask how their day is. Any work related interactions with the opposite sex are kept strictly on business. Always keep the conversation on the up and up. The MOMENT it changes, the MOMENT things start moving into a different direction, shut it down.

Protect what you got.

And if your lady EVER asks to see the messages or texts on your phone, you hand her the phone. The moment you don’t you plant a seed of doubt. You don’t need that. You give her that phone with all the confidence in the world, because you need and want her to feel secure in her relationship. Get it? If there is something on there that needs to be explained then just own up to it and tell the truth. The true mark of a man is that his word actually means something. Make sure you have the strength of character enough to tell the truth. 

Understand something, I KNOW you got the deck stacked against you. You get to carry the weight. But sometimes you make things twice as difficult by stepping on your own dick with a lie or an ignorant behavior. Hopefully, you’ll read this and it’ll help you pull your head out. 

Don’t seek validation from women

Lastly, women like to think they know what it means or what it’s like to be a man. They like to question your manhood. Understand something, NO WOMAN has the right or clue to question your manhood. Whether or not you’re a man is recognized and validated by other men. True men who have been tested and have the ability to recognize iron with value. So, don’t look to women for validation of that.

Stay the course and you push yourself. You may not have all of the things on this list down but you can if you work on them. And if you claim to be a man and are offended by anything I’ve said here, then you’re not a man in my book. Clearly you sit when you pee and have no business reading this, because I specifically warned women not to read this.

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