I am not going to spend a lot of time on this topic because I think the answer is blatantly obvious and the topic is dumb. However, I came across this short video in my browsing’s and know that it’s something I’ve heard before that carries a bit of confusion so I figure I’ll give it a swing at clarifying it.

In this clip the woman decides to give her a guy a test by kissing another dude to see if her man will “fight” for her. Now obviously any rational person would recognize this as a bad idea. But, it is a bad idea that seemingly a lot of people tend to fall prey to. So let’s take a crack at spelling out the obvious to the dumb ones in the back.

I’m actually going to post the video I’m talking about in case you’d like to watch it here:

https://www.facebook.com/reel/1264774717465842?mibextid=0NULKw

So she poses the question of what he would do if he saw her with another guy kissing and his response is that he would do nothing. Which is of course not what she wanted to hear so she gets upset. “You wouldn’t fight for me?!” Which he responds with, “No. That’s not my issue anymore that’s yours and his issue. I’m not about to put myself in a situation when you’re the one allowing it to happen”. Then it goes on from there with her arguing with him and getting more upset at his matter of fact response.

See, I get why the woman would want the guy to fight for her. Absolutely. Makes sense. However, his statement: you allowed it to happen, speaks volumes. It’s also the one concept that many women don’t seem to fully grasp.

First, you shouldn’t be playin games like that with your mate. That’s some low-wit, juvenile shit. Second, if you actually willingly put yourself into the arms of another man, you’ve officially reduced your value to something that isn’t worth fighting for. Get it?

The concept of fidelity is unique because it’s based on the belief that you know someone and you can trust them. When they betray that, even by means of a stupid game or test, that belief is shattered and that trust isn’t easily repaired. So to dumb it down for the ones in the back, fidelity is worth fighting for – infidelity is not. Get it? You can get infidelity by the truck loads from strangers. Infidelity is in mass supply. Fidelity however, now that’s something special, unique, and definitely worth fighting for.

So with her fictitious scenario involving her willingly kissing some other dude, the guy doesn’t feel the need or desire to protect or save what he’s got. Because what he thought he had in her, he didn’t really have. Hence, he’s not fighting for that.

Obviously the concept goes both ways.

Had the woman posed the question with her getting an unwanted kiss from a man I assure you the guys response would have definitely been different and involved acts of violence towards the perpetrator. Most guys have no problem testing the odds against an opponent when they are defending their woman. But when a guy got a woman stepping out voluntarily? Nah, any action he presents is for protecting his own ego; it’s not being done out of any perceived loss of value on her. That’s the difference. Guy’s that are in the relationship for themselves and to boost their own ego with throw a fit when their lady voluntarily steps out on them. Guy’s that actually give a damn about the relationship and love the woman will simply bow out and step down when they see their woman voluntarily go with another man. Why? Because it was never about them. It was about her and what she wanted. If being in the arms of another man is what she wants…then so be it.

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***Ladies, don’t play dumb games with your men. Seriously. A guy will absolutely fight to defend you when you are innocent of what’s going on. However, if you’ve prompted it, encouraged it, voluntarily put yourself in a situation that involves another man with the thought or expectation that he is going to step up for you? You gonna be disappointed. Guys don’t like being emotionally played with.

****Consent. It’s about consent. Play stupid games get stupid prizes. You put yourself into that situation then you got what is coming to you. And any man that knowingly accepts a woman that does that deserves the low character woman he got.

*****You want a man that’s willing to fight for your honor, you actually have to be a woman of honor. Funny how that works. (This is basic) Don’t be mad because you were too dumb to recognize the obvious. Don’t play dumb games with your mate.