Let’s first define what a Drama Queen is, shall we?

A quick google search into the definition gave the following results:

So, if you’d like ta stop being such a drama queen and get on with your life drama free, take notes and follow this short list of drama free tips:

#1   Stop posting about your relationship or work on social media.

Seriously. No one gives a shit what your ex did or how bad a person they were to you. No one reading about it can do anything about it. Posting about is simply perceived as ploy for sympathy. You know it and everyone that reads about it knows it. So, it’s a pointless practice that simply makes any potential suiter cringe at the thought of being in a relationship with you.  In the event of your breakup, will they have all of their dirty laundry plastered all over social media too?

Same thing goes for people that go on and on about things that happened at their job. Post after post, droning on and on about how bad their job is or what negative thing happened during it; and how lucky their employer is for having them. Stop. Just stop. You look like a total idiot to the people reading about it and any potential employer simply sees it as an indication of someone who is a problem.

2#  Stop adopting other peoples problems!

Seriously, your best friends ex who is a total jerk is NOT your problem. Not. Nope. Sorry your friend is going thru that. That sucks. But no, you don’t need to prove how good of a friend you are by putting yourself out or in harms way by dealing with the problem that someone else’s life choices brought them. Nope.

Did they get arrested? Bummer. Have they been evicted? That sucks. Do they need a ride…everywhere…always? Tough gig. You think you’re being this great friend by constantly putting yourself into a position of helping other people out. Someone that people will look back fondly on and appreciate, perhaps even return the favor when you need it.

But it’s not true. Any true friend wouldn’t want to involve their close friends or family into the shitstorm of whatever their life has brought them. They’d want ta protect their close friends and family from it. Which means, you’re dealing with a User; and users don’t appreciate anything. In fact, they often take all of your efforts for granted. So, STOP getting involved in OTHER PEOPLES DRAMA!

3#   Stop expecting a duck to behave other than a duck. 

Do you know what I mean when I say that? I mean the friend, family member, co-worker, etc. that came over borrowed something and never returned it or got too drunk and vomited all over everything and then pee’d on your car seat and left. Recognize and acknowledge that people have shit; and they bring their shit, to any given place or situation.

So, if you know they constantly are bringing their shit with them wherever they go and you don’t like having to deal with the carnage their shit brings, then QUIT EXPECTING DIFFERENT SHIT! Those people are the shit masters of their own shit. That shit does NOT have to apply to you. Stop inviting over and hanging out with people who bring or create drama; and especially don’t complain about them, when you KNOW that is how they behave. Stay away from them. Avoid or minimize contact.

But stop expecting this pink/purple bunny rabbit of CHANGE to magically fly out of their ass and things be suddenly different. It can’t. They aren’t. And you should damn well kno better. 

That’s it. Three really basic, easily applied, tips for avoiding drama and living a drama free/reduced drama life.

ALL of the things mentioned above CREATE drama. Every. Single. One. Now, this is the start of a New Year…this year doesn’t have to be a repeat of your drama history. You can minimize and eliminate the drama roller coaster in your life this year. By simply employing some of the above tips. Do that.

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***Having drama is a part of life.

We all have things not work out or go our way at times. However, the people that tend to seem to enjoy the drama of it all, are typically the ones who always have it going on. They are always the ones that have some “emergency” going on. And they never do anything to change or minimize it. They do the same things, invite the same people, then expect different results. While never actually learning from past drama. Then end up repeating it. Ya gotta avoid people like that. And I know I have said this many times in the past and people have thought me a dick for sayin it, but I have a low tolerance for shit like that; and you should too. 

****In this life there are problems and problem solvers.

People with problems always go to problems solvers to solve their problems. Pro-tip: If you’re the one asking of someone to solve a problem or give advice: YOU are bringing the drama. Your life drama, to them, for them to help find a solution. It’s not a bad thing. Not at all. It’s smart. However, don’t attempt to gas-light the problem solver as the one who’s starting drama when they’ve given you an answer you don’t want to hear. Own your own shit. That drama is all yours. 

*****Anxiety and drama are married.

They hold hands and gleefully skip around your brain. If you suffer from anxiety, then you most definitely have some sort of drama going on in your life all the time. It’s just the nature of the beast. If not outwardly, then inwardly for sure; your brain is in a constant state of making things bigger than what they are. It’s not intended to be a cut. I’m just sayin that maybe you should try to be mindful of that. Especially when other people are not sharing your cause for concern over different things. Perhaps you could consider other peoples lack of concern as a indicator that maybe you shouldn’t feel as strongly about some things either? 

******Like I said earlier, everybody has got drama.

If you want less drama in your life then you need to avoid situations and people that encourage drama. It’s as simple as that. Stop inviting, stop hanging out, stop gossiping, stop posting about it, etc. ; practice avoidance. If you’re unwilling ta do that…then you deserve what you get.

It’s a New Year and a New you! You can do it! I have faith in you…n’stuff.