People cheat on each other for various reasons. I get it. I’d imagine the practice has been going on since the beginning of time. Sure, you can argue against it, advocate for people not to engage in it, but in spite of all those efforts people will still fall prey to it. It’s the forbidden fruit that is forbidden to engage in…but no one is really surprised when someone is caught engaging in it. It would seem, that actually being loyal isn’t so common.

The reasons given, albeit justified and rationalized at the time, tend to be anything but. For instance, one of the justifications that many women give when they cheat on their men is, “Well, I just lost respect for him”…Um…you, jUsT lOsT rEsPeCt fOr HiM?! They say that as if suddenly everything is supposed ta make sense.

But what sense is there in that statement?

Are YOU suddenly the beacon of respect? You, who claims to have lost respect and yet goes out and behaves totally disrespectful? Spare me the drivel. If you actually asked a woman what it was that they deemed worthy of their respect you would get a dozen different answers. Most of which would revolve around things like, being a hard worker, being a good father, etc. 

All of which are open to interpretation on any given moment on any given day. All of which if a guy was wouldn’t prevent a woman from cheating on him. It’s absurd. Women who use that as a justification for why they cheat, are equally absurd. Women are literally the beacon of disrespect when they are pissed. There is literally no contest. If there was a trophy for which gender could be the most disrespectful, women would win, EVERY TIME. 

Then you got these guys that cheat on their women and they attempt to justify it

because not only do they feel entitled to it, but they actually think that by cheating on them instead of just leaving their woman or divorcing them, they are still taking care of them.

For real. So lemme get this straight…you cheating on your lady, but not breaking up or divorcing them is better than for you to just break ties and divorce or break up with them? Wow.

So hey, Ima thinkin, if your lady had a choice of learning the truth and simply moving on with her life or living a lie while being exposed to various sexually transmitted diseases…Ima guessin your lady is gonna be just fine and is probably better off without your cheating ass.

“But, but, but, I don’t want to hurt her!” 

Hey, too late dipshit. Pack up your shit and move on. Pretty simple actually. She WILL survive.

So stop lying to yourself. You’re not really taking care of anyone but yourself and the ONLY reason you aren’t leaving is because you’re a coward and don’t want ta face her.

One of the BIGGEST LIES a man can tell himself is that he is taking care of his family while cheating on his lady

It’s such an insane fallacy. Because the truth of it is…you’re actually taking a flamethrower to everything that was ever good for your family to satisfy and justify your own self interests. There is a warm place in hell for guys like you…and your name is on it. The extent of your cheating will be felt for years. Like ripples in a pond. The ramifications of which that will be felt for decades. 

Okay, oh kaaay….it’s not that I think people who cheat on their partners are some of the biggest wussies on the planet, it’s just that, based on what I have seen and personally experienced of it, there is a subtle art to doing it right. Not that cheating is ever “right”. Don’t get me wrong, I’m NOT advocating in favor of cheating on your mate. In fact, I am adamantly against it. It’s truly a failure move in a relationship. But I have noticed that:

People who are honest with themselves as to why they cheated and are honest with their mate about their cheating tend to do much better in the aftermath of infidelity. 

Call me crazy, but I think people tend to like the truth. They tend to be more understanding and forgiving of the truth. And if you happen to be one of the many cowards that is MOST MEN when it comes ta cheating, you’re kinda screwed, cause you dig yourself an even deeper hole by lying about it or trying to cover it up.

If you simply OWNED UP TO YOUR OWN SHIT, straightened that spine out a bit and pretended ta be a man for two seconds and told your lady the truth, a lot women would ultimately forgive you. Based on my experience anyway. 

Of course that doesn’t work with women

With a woman, she could be cheating with another dude in your own bed and you’d never know it. She’ll look at you the next day, smile to your face, and you’d feel loved by the very woman that just spent all night betraying you. So getting the actual truth from a woman is difficult. It’s not so much of a coward thing with women, although it is cowardice. It’s more of a self preservation thing. They know they messed up. They know that another dudes hand in the cookie jar isn’t “ok”…and they worried about your reaction to that. Many women throughout the course of history have found themselves pushing up daisies over that. Most women who cheat don’t don’t wanna be one of them.

Which is why, when I hear cheaters braggin about it, I get all sortsa Scoobied. Ima like…Um, you do know that many men have had their tires slashed and windows broken out over that shit, right? Women will frickin poison your food, bro…don’t be talkin that shit ’round me. Shit, you gonna get me kinked by her for simply knowin about it. Nope. I respectfully decline. You can keep your damn stories of conquest to ya damn self. I got all the women problems I need all on my own…I don’t need yours too.

If history has proven anything, it’s that women truly have been the ones that have suffered the most at the hands of men in society

Truly. So, don’t think for one minute that we, as a society, have progressed to some magical point where suddenly women can be totally disrespectful to their men and bare no consequences of that. I mean, you have a right to be dumb. God bless ya. You just can’t be that dumb. There is a genetics and DNA thing goin on in all our bodies that is primal. You ain’t gonna wish something like that away with a feel good of how things should be. 

Cheating hurts people. People who cheat are hurting. It sucks. Terrible place ta be in life. The ONE thing that has ANY value, whatsoever, in a relationship is your ability to have faith and trust in your mate. Without that, you got shit. It’s the one thing that separates the person you’re with and everyone else in a room. So to lose that, to find out that no longer exists, is a devastating blow. A blow that shouldn’t be taken lightly. You messin with someone’s sense of well-being when you cheat…you’d be wise ta keep that shit on the down low. People don’t respond rationally when they incur a cut like that.

So here is my advice:

Don’t cheat on your mate. If you want out of the relationship or have needs that aren’t being met and you’ve done all the talkin you can do with no change or improvement, then move on. CUT TIES FIRST. Just make it clean. Then you’re good ta go. You can do what you want and there’s minimal bad blood. Be honest about it. Tell the truth. The whole truth…and nothin but the truth…so help you, God. (Cause you gonna need Him)

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***Yup, I’ve been on both sides of this fence. The thing is, after a while, you get kinda sick of your own shit and you have ta own up to it. Simply admit you’ve messed up and make a decision ta never be that type of person again. No, it doesn’t change or lessen the sting of the past, but it does provide for a better future. Suck it up and own your shit…because in spite of how hOrRiBle your mate is, it is YOUR shit. Make no mistake, regardless of what they have done to you, if you’re the one cheating, YOU are the asshole. Why? Because a cowards path is never celebrated. 

Yes, I am very well aware of what the bible says on the topic.

*****I have however presented my arguments in a way that even the dumbest pagan, who claims that the bible isn’t true, will understand it. Because throughout history…Christian or Pagan, the practice of cheating hasn’t been favorably received. Hopefully, that fact will resonate with even the dumbest amongst us. 

******I understand that this topic is sure ta strike a cord with some people. I can appreciate that. It’s a tough topic. Perhaps you don’t like my take that there is a “better”/”more favorable” way in which to cheat. Perhaps the concept of being “honest” in the practice of cheating seem contradictory to you. Regardless of all those possibilities, I’d prefer, I’d request that you save your thoughts and opinions for yourself. You don’t actually have to tell me what you think about this blog. I am actually “ok” with never knowing how you feel about it. It’s not that I don’t care, I do. (Not really) It’s simply that, in this case, Science is on my side…and it’s a proven fact that honesty when it comes to infidelity has actually led to more couples being able to mend and salvage relationships that have suffered a partner that was unfaithful.

So….I am right. Fight me… 🙂