Sexist jokes can be hilarious. I’d be lying if I said I hadn’t told a few. The tongue in cheek joke of women being dishwashers and sandwich makers is damn funny. I mean, LOOK at this meme:

How can you not look at that meme and not laugh? That’s hilarious. It’s also sexist, misogynistic, and incredibly insulting. And I think anyone who took something like that meme seriously has some real issues. Most of which can not me remedied with reading a blog.

However, I’ve been reminded recently that some people haven’t been raised with the benefits of outspoken women in their lives. As a result, some seem to struggle with the difference of making a tongue in cheek comment to get laughs, and one being made because you believe it.

When I was growing up, I had a grandmother and a mother that would have boxed my ears if I popped off to my lady to go make me a sandwich. I can remember on more than one occasion being pulled aside by both of them, my shirt curled up in their fist, nose to nose, with them saying “If I ever hear of you treating a woman that way…”

Talks like that, had quite the impression on me as a young man

I was very much aware of the dynamic between men and women. How that yes, there was a difference in “duties”, but there was a balance required and that the abuse of either was simply unacceptable.

Jokes aside, as a man if you view your woman as nothing more than a dishwasher or sandwich maker, I’d say your woman is better off without you and I’d guess your IQ to be around 80. Only low wit mfers think of their women like that or treat them that way.

Sure, your lady may make you a sandwich, get you a beer, keep the house clean, etc. But there should be a level of respect involved there that shows her your appreciation of what she does for you and the household. And you should be keeping up with things on your end. Especially if you want to be treated as something more than a paycheck. 

Did you hear that? Read that again.

If you don’t want to be viewed as nothing more than a paycheck or an ATM, then you have to BE more than a paycheck and an ATM. Which starts with not treating your lady like she has no other value in your life other than making you a sandwich, being a maid, or helping you nut.

I think the guys that complain about how little their women do for them are the same guys who let their women pay all the bills from a bank account that never has enough in it to cover them.

How you got the stones ta expect your lady ta make you a sandwich when you doin that? My gramma woulda knocked your teeth into next week!

That being said…

Women who refuse to make a meal for their man or refuse to get a beer if asked are equally confusing in my mind. What kind of mental malfunction you gotta have going on in your brain to not want to “serve” your mate?

Because that is what it is: Service. Men serve their women by providing and protecting. Women serve their men by nurturing and providing peace.

Doing those things for each other in a relationship isn’t a detriment, it’s a benefit. People who manage to maintain those acts of service to each other have healthy relationships that compliment each other.

You can make the statement, “Well I am not that type of women. I don’t cook or clean.” But I have to ask, are you at least human? Because human beings do those things and have done those things for a millennia. Adult humans do those things in service to each other. Perhaps you need to simply grow up?

So as we sit down today to enjoy the meal the women in our lives have prepared for us

Let’s be thankful for and remember the beauty that is involved with preparing a meal for loved ones. How that acts of service to each other are where our words of love are affirmed. And only fools would refuse doing such a beautiful thing for someone they love.

Make the sammich, do the dishes, mow the lawn, pay the bills, not with resentment towards each other, but in love. It’ll strengthen your relationship and bring you peace.

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***I don’t mind being served a plate of food, but it’s always made me feel awkward. I grew up in a household where my Ma served my Dad a plate every night, and I was well aware of her frustration when he’d send her back into the kitchen for hot sauce or a napkin. So, I kinda just grew up getting my own plate. In fact, when I was married, I never let my wife fix me a plate. I always got it myself. In truth, the only woman in my life that has ever fixed me a plate on a routine basis was my ex-fiance. It was just something she did and I learned to accept it. It was like the only redeeming quality she had. She was a total narcissist and an unabashed cheater, but she fixed a mean plate of food, Haha!

****I still cook food for my kids. Growing up I had heard my Ma say how she enjoyed cooking for us. I never quite understood it until I had kids of my own. There’s just something about spending time cooking them a warm meal and knowing that it brings them comfort when they eat it. As much as I enjoy it when my daughter cooks me food, I still make sure to have dinner ready for her every night when she comes home from work. 

*****The make me a sammich joke is hilarious. And if you say it right…with a bit of a sideways glance, a wink and a smile, that woman might just make you more than a sammich. Jus sayin 🙂