Remember during the pandemic I was telling people they don’t have the right to dictate to business owners how they choose to conduct their business? How that if you didn’t agree with the mask mandates, that’s fine, but if a business you wanted to go to required you to wear a mask then you should respect that if you wanted to shop there or use their service? Well if not, I did say that. Why? Because if I am in business, YOU don’t get to tell ME how to run my business. Sure, you can protest, boycott, and let me know your thoughts. But if I as the owner of that business decide you have to wear a pink bandanna in order to utilize my product or service, guess what your bitch azz gonna be wearin to get my product or service? 

Clear? You don’t like it, you can go somewhere else. But while you’re here, in my business, I expect you to be respectful of how I choose to run my business.

YOUR HOME IS NO DIFFERENT

We have just had a very emotional election year. Some might say that the last three elections have been by far the most controversial elections in U.S. history. To say that America is divided is an understatement. And in two weeks we are expected to all come together as a family and give “Thanks” for the Thanksgiving holiday.

Now if you are a Trump supporter, this years Thanksgiving is gonna be heartfelt, sincere, and easy. However, if you voted for that low-life, Democrat pos, garbage person, who could only spew word vomit, Kamala then you may be finding it a bit harder this year to find things to be Thankful for.

THAT BEING SAID…

You don’t get to disrespect the people of the home you are invited to with your bullshit. Doesn’t matter if you are 100% MAGA, red blooded American, Trump supporter, if you are in a Liberal, Leftists, Douchebags, Dumbshit for brains, Kamala voters home for Thanksgiving, you should be polite and respectful. And if you are a 100% Dumbshit for brains, Leftists, Kamala voter and are invited to a flaming Trump supporters home for Thanksgiving, then you should be polite and respectful too.

Which means, if you are a Trump supporter and your douche bag, Leftist, cousin wants you to refer to them in their preferred pronouns while you are in THEIR home, then you better suck it up buttercup and he/she/we/them whatever the entire time you’re there. But that also means that your Leftist, douche bag cousin doesn’t get to insist you refer to them in their preferred pronouns in your own home. See how it works both ways? 

AND IF YOU ARE UNWILLING TO DO THAT

Then don’t go!

This year, spare your friends and your family the pain of having to deal with your ignorant, juvenile, behavior during the holiday. Seriously, think about it. Is it really too much to ask for you to put your bullshit aside for ONE DAY to simply enjoy the holiday? You can’t respect someone’s opinions or beliefs for ONE DAY?

Because if so, then something is wrong.

Something is intellectually, emotionally, spiritually, mentally wrong with you. The “problem” then is not your in-laws, or friends, etc. with the difference of opinion that have the problem, it’s you. YOU are the problem.

The ability to control your emotions and show respect to people you don’t agree with is a sign of maturity. Not affording that basic respect for the people you are attempting to share a holiday with is just absurd.

SO IF THANKSGIVING DINNER IS AT YOUR HOUSE THIS YEAR

You have a right to set boundaries in your own home.

I know that can be hard for some people. It can create uncomfortable situations and can alienate family members.

I’m writing this blog in hopes of it being a help, using the plainest talk possible. So if you need help with the delivery, give this to them to read and say, “I really want to enjoy the holiday with you. You’re my friend, my family. I want you to be here with me in my home to celebrate this day together. So, I’d appreciate us respecting each other while we celebrate this day. I’m not gonna intentionally do anything to upset you; and I’d appreciate you not intentionally doing anything to upset me.”

Surely they can understand and accept that. If not, then maybe it’s best they stay home….until they grow up?

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***Setting boundaries can be tough, but in your own home it’s essential to maintaining your peace. And your home should absolutely be fashioned to support and promote YOUR peace. Don’t allow outside friends or family threaten or change that. 

****I’ve travelled a bit in my life. So maybe that’s helped me with this perspective. “When in Rome, be a Roman….” That thought process has worked well for me when confronted with other cultures. And it’s made the boundaries very clear for me while in my own home. I have no problem giving respect when I am a guest. And I damn well expect respect when I am hosting a guest. 

*****It’s ok to disagree. Debate wouldn’t be a thing if other people didn’t have different perspectives. So don’t be afraid of it. But it doesn’t need to take place at the dinner table this holiday season. You can enjoy each others company without being disrespectful.