Have you seen some of the short videos posted all over social media calling out women on their incessant BS? Social influencers all over TikTok, Facebook, and Instagram calling out women and the bad behaviors that us men have had to deal with for decades. Some of the videos are funny, some are very poignant, others are down right profound.

And it’s about time, right? That was my first thought the moment I saw the first few. I grew up in the 80’s and early 90’s. Those two decades were overt in their men bashing. During that time I learned that men were responsible for all the wrongs of the world due to our arrogance, misogyny, Patriarchy, machoism, physical and emotional abuses on society. Women of that era were calling men out. Claiming that they weren’t going to take it anymore. They wanted men that were strong but also capable of expressing themselves and weren’t afraid to show their sensitive side.

Confusing? Youbetcha! 

But now, its a complete role reversal. Now we have loads of men that are good men who work hard, do their best to take care of their families, etc. and they are down right sick of dealing with the self absorbed, entitled, promiscuous, deceitful, manipulative women that the last couple decades have provided us. So men have been speaking out; and what’s surprising, is women have been speaking out too! 

You read that right. Women have been speaking out against the attitudes and behaviors of other women.

That is encouraging! That is undeniable proof that painting with a broad brush when discussing the behavior problems with the sexes, is exactly that, a broad brush. Obviously, not every woman or every man shares the same common behavior problem.

But there is a reason it’s said that women are better liars than men. There is a valid reason why women go to the restroom in pairs. There is a reason why the running joke is that women are lousy drivers.

And as much as some of the videos on social media truly make me laugh and I find myself often agreeing with some of the conclusions, I have ta ask…Did we create this?

Are the behaviors that we are seeing from these last few decades of women a direct result of the way their predecessors were treated by men prior to our generation?

Did men actually create these deceitful, manipulative, self absorbed, sorry excuses for the female sex that we’ve all been dealing with?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m all keen on people from the weaker sex taking responsibility for their shitty behavior. (Notice I said “weaker” sex?…who started that saying? My guess would be: Men. Is that one of the reasons why some women seem to go out of their way to act tough?)

Women are better liars than men. For two reasons: #1 Women had to be. To avoid getting their asses beat by men. They learned to lie really well. For self preservation. #2 Men truly are stupid. Men have an arrogance about them that for some reason feel like, even if they are caught in a lie, they’ll deal with it and it’ll be fine.

Women are highly manipulative. Because being direct, carries no weight with men. So if they want something done, if they want to be taken seriously, they have ta use their womanly wiles.

Women are shitty drivers. Because for most women growing up, they didn’t have fathers that gave them the time of day, let alone taught them shit about how to build, create, or drive anything that allowed them to develop the skills necessary to gauge distance of reaction times.

See what I mean? I can watch the videos all over social media trashing on some of the very most egregious behaviors displayed by some women, and I can absolutely get on board with most of it. If you got behaviors that are shit, then by all means, clean up your own shit. Take responsibility and do it. However, I’m inclined to believe that some of the genesis of these shitty behaviors are rooted in the undeniable failings of: Men.

Weak Men.

Not suggesting that Men and Women don’t bring their own messes to the table. Simply suggesting that in some cases, the shitty behaviors displayed by either sex, can often be traced back to personal experiences or failings of people that were supposed ta be the “rock” in our lives.

I’m not excusing it. I’m not. Regardless of how you were treated, you are responsible for the trauma you perpetuate. But if I were raised with the expectation of remaining silent, barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen…I guarantee you, even the slightest ounce of freedom, would result in behaviors from me that wouldn’t be liked or appreciated.

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***I’ve noticed that when I have tried to talk to various women in regards to the shitty behavior of their sex they will often be eager to clarify that it doesn’t apply to “all women”. They do this in an effort to dismiss what is being said as something that doesn’t apply to them. This would make sense to me if it wasn’t obvious that when I say, “Women”, I am speaking with a broad brush. It’s a generally speaking statement. (If I was talking about your shitty behavior I would name you and you’d know it) Of course, most statements made against any specific gender don’t apply to “all”. Afterall, I am a Man. Men throughout history have been notoriously violent and responsible for 99.9% of all domestic abuse towards women. DOESN’T MATTER that statement doesn’t apply to me; it’s STILL a valid statement. The same applies to women when discussing women. You may not be an anxious woman; but your gender is responsible for over 80% of the anti-anxiety medication sold across the U.S. . Get it? Don’t allow your own personal need to defend yourself prevent you from recognizing serious failings that only people like yourself of like gender can remedy. That’s one of the reasons why seeing videos of women calling out other women is so encouraging. 

****Did I put the responsibility back on men? Uh…ya, pretty much. Because I honestly believe that the men in this Country suck and they are responsible. Women are opposed to and speak out against the “Patriarchy” because of abuse. They been abused. Period. There isn’t a woman on the planet that would have a problem with a man taking charge and taking care of things if they did it from a position of servitude and not control. Understand the difference? Maybe you should. 

*****So in the 80’s and 90’s men were getting bashed and now the pendulum has swung and women are on the chopping block. Cool. Do you think it’s possible that the two genders will just recognize the strengths and weaknesses of both and figure out that they tend to work best when they are on the same side, working together to accomplish the same goals? I’d be keen on seeing that.  

******You want to have good women for your sons? Be a good father. Every man reading this, you tired of the shit you been dealing with women? Be a good father to your daughter. Show her how to drive so she doesn’t hit curbs. Work with her in the shop, take her fishing so she baits her own hook. You want to kill anxiety that countless women across the globe suffer from daily? Be a good dad. Give her the strength of character that she desperately needs. Are you being the man you’d hope your daughter would meet? 

If you’re a woman reading this: Are you the type of woman you’d hope your son would meet? Are you showing your sons the “blueprint” for the type of woman you’d hope they’d be with? When you talk to your man, the way you treat your man? 

Make no mistake….we do reap what we have sowed; and our kids often pay the price. How are you treating that man? How are you treating that woman? Would you be “ok” with your son or daughter being treated that way?