The need for security. If there was ever a type in the nine personality types listed on the Enneagram that need love it’s the type six.

Type sixes have suffered some sort of physical or emotional abuse at a very young age. As a result, they tend to be incredibly suspicious, accusatory, critical, and lack trust. They spend most of their days in a state of fear of the unknown. Fear of what could happen. There may be no legitimate or logical reason to worry about something; but that won’t stop a type six from thinking about it.

They struggle with anxiety and depression every day.

Some days are better than others. They’ll fret over things that have been said or done in the past. They’ll hold grudges. For a type six, if you have wronged them in some way, that wrong will be recorded, taken note of, and be accumulated along with every other way in which you have wronged them; regardless of any apology. In fact, there is no apology that is ever good enough for a type six. Your apology doesn’t erase the way in which you wronged them. So they’ll never forget it. It’ll be added to their mental list of times you have betrayed their trust.

Type sixes have a really hard time recognizing or remembering all the good; because they spend their days focused on all the bad. And although in most cases there will be more good than bad, type sixes will never see it. They can’t. The list of wrongs they carry inside always becomes too great for them to see the truth of a situation. They are often blinded of the truth because of a fundamental lack of forgiveness.

Type sixes long for security.

They’ll seek it out in every place they go, every job they work at, every relationship they’re in. When they finally obtain the security they need; they’ll immediately not trust it. They’ll start subconsciously looking for faults, chinks in the armor, the vulnerability of a situation and begin to pull away. Often rejecting the very source of security that was once provided to them. Ultimately undermining their own basic needs and continuing the cycle of distrust. Distrust becomes a self fulfilling prophecy; because they’ll create it. Living in a state of distrust is their normal. Type six don’t trust their own judgement.

The root sin of type six is: Fear. Type sixes need to open their hearts to God and work to put their faith in Him. They’ve already learned they can’t trust “man”; which is why it is so critically important for them to develop a genuine trust in God. A trust that begins with: Forgiveness. Type sixes need to learn to forgive. It’s a fundamental basic in human interaction that is foreign to them and needs developed. They need to learn to forgive. Forgive the people who hurt them so deeply so many years ago and forgive themselves for who they have become. Forgiveness opens the door to trust and security. Without it, none of those things are possible.

Type sixes need to realize that God is in control and is working for their good.

They don’t have to trust man; but they should trust God. They need to come to a place in their relationship with God that they know, in their hearts, that God truly loves them; will never leave or abandon them, and will never fail them. Only when they fully learn to trust God, will type sixes experience the true love and security they need to feel whole.

Some suggested study scriptures for the type six would be: Ephesians 2:4-5, Psalms 86:15, Jeremiah 29:11, Romans 5:2-5, Psalms 86:5, 1 Corinthians 13:4-8, Matthew 6:14-15, Luke 17:3-4, Ephesians 4:31-32, Isaiah 43:25-26, Ephesians 1:7, Matthew 18:21-22.

 

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